How long can you wait before attending a funeral? What are the rules for attending a funeral?

Chinese people have always attached great importance to traditional customs, and there are many requirements and taboos in terms of weddings and funerals. Generally speaking, people who are having a funeral at home cannot attend weddings. So how long can a person who is having a funeral not attend weddings? What are the requirements for attending a funeral?

How long can you not attend funerals?

No weddings for 100 days;
Generally speaking, if you have attended a funeral, you are not allowed to attend a wedding within 100 days, as this will bring bad luck to the host family and is not good for the family getting married. Moreover, China has been a country that values ​​filial piety since ancient times. Although filial piety is no longer a blind virtue nowadays, it is still a fine virtue that is highly advocated. Therefore, most families insist that if someone dies in the family, there will be no wedding in the family within three years.

What are the requirements for attending a funeral?

1. Clothing <br/>When attending a funeral, it is not appropriate to wear brightly colored clothes, shoes or hats, or sportswear or casual wear. Both men and women should choose simple, dark-colored clothing, shoes and hats such as black, gray and blue. Ladies should avoid heavy makeup and may choose to wear plain jewelry.
No pets, no red bags, scarves, gloves, or masks. Colors should be kept simple and elegant.
2. Expression and behavior <br/>A funeral should be a peaceful and solemn farewell to the deceased. At the funeral, after meeting the deceased's family, you should shake hands politely and comfort the family members with appropriate words. Whether out of curiosity or for any other reason, one should not look at the family members of the deceased.
1. When paying respects to the deceased, one should actively obey the commands and instructions of the master of ceremonies, line up in order, burn incense and bow solemnly, and naturally find a place to stand.
2. Do not make loud noises, laugh or play, litter, or hang out with familiar people. Don't cry loudly and don't make loud phone calls or answer calls on the spot.
3. Respect the deceased and their families, and do not take photos or videos of the scene at will.
3. Funeral Accompanying
1. White rice. After attending the funeral, the relatives of the deceased will usually arrange a funeral dinner to thank the guests. If there are no special circumstances, try to attend. Funerals are usually held in the early morning, and people will be hungry after the funeral.
2. Funeral vehicle. When you use a car to help with the funeral of relatives or friends, the other party will generally pay for the car fare. If the other party does not understand, you can ask for a cigarette. This is a kind of etiquette requirement. When you come back, be sure to wash the car.
3. Buried in a cemetery. When sending the deceased's ashes from the funeral home to the cemetery for burial, try not to stand in the shade so that your shadow does not fall on the grave.
4. Return after the event
1. It is not advisable to go home directly. After the event, you can go somewhere else, go shopping, eat, or do something outside before going back.
2. It is not advisable to visit friends. At a funeral, if you meet friends you haven't seen for a long time, or if you have something urgent to do, it is not advisable to visit your friend's home immediately after attending the funeral. You should wait until some time has passed.
3. It is not appropriate to visit the elderly and the weak. The elderly and children have weaker constitutions and are sensitive to things. Therefore, after attending a funeral, you should not meet with the elderly or children directly to talk about funeral matters, so as not to affect their mood or thoughts.