Taboos for children after their mother's death How to inform relatives and friends of their mother's death

The people who are most sad after the death of their parents are their children. After the death of their parents, children should fulfill their filial piety and take care of the funeral affairs for their parents. What are the taboos for children after their mother’s death? How do I inform my family and friends about my mother's death?

Taboos for children after their mother's death

1. Avoid leaving an elderly person alone when he or she passes away: In ancient times, people attached great importance to passing on the family line. When an elderly person dies, there must be descendants present, as it is believed that this way the deceased will not be alone when he or she passes away, and will not have too many worries in the underworld. If all relatives are present when an elderly person dies, it will be considered the greatest blessing and will leave the elderly with no regrets.
2. Avoid letting the deceased die naked: At funerals in the north, the elderly are dressed in shrouds before they die. It is believed that such clothes can be taken away by the elderly, so they will not die naked. Therefore, when an elderly person reaches the age of 60, his children and grandchildren will be busy making burial clothes for him so that he can pass away peacefully.
3. Taboos during burial: There are many taboos during burial. First, the tears of family members cannot fall on the body of the deceased. Second, before and after burial, cats and dogs are not allowed to approach the corpse. Third, it is not allowed to use willow wood as the coffin of the deceased. Fourth, it is not allowed to have buttons on the burial clothes, and strips of cloth should be used instead of buttons. Fifth, it is not allowed to have sleeves that cannot cover the hands, as it is believed that the deceased will be poor and hungry in the underworld if he is not clothed.
4. Taboos in announcing a death: When announcing a death, the main method is to hang white cloth or paper on the door to let people know that someone in the family has died. After the burial date is determined, the deceased's children and grandchildren must go to their grandmother's home to report the death. When announcing a death, filial sons should perform formal greetings outside before entering the house, and then inform relatives of the death and burial time.
5. Taboos in choosing a cemetery: Regarding the taboos in choosing a cemetery, let me share with you the folk song about the ten taboos: "One, do not bury on rough rocks; two, do not bury on the beach of rapids; three, do not bury in a desolate place at the source of a ditch; four, do not bury in a lonely hilltop; five, do not bury in front of or behind a temple; six, do not bury on left or right; seven, do not bury on a mountain that disturbs a disorderly situation; eight, do not bury in a place with sad feng shui; nine, do not bury in a small place; ten, do not bury in a place with pointed heads of dragons or tigers." What is emphasized here is the taboos in choosing a cemetery for the deceased. In reality, when the deceased is purchasing a cemetery, they usually ask someone to choose a good place for the deceased to avoid a hasty burial that would bring disaster to their descendants.
6. Walk around the tomb three times and avoid looking back: After the deceased is buried, the funeral relatives must walk around the tomb three times. On the way home, avoid looking back, lest the ghost of the deceased follow the living home.

How to notify relatives and friends of the death of your mother

Example 1:
Dear friends and relatives:
My loving mother xxx passed away on October 11, 2018 (the third day of the ninth lunar month). The funeral will be held on October 16 (the eighth day of the ninth lunar month) in Group 6, xx Village, xx Township (a small place name xx), and the funeral will be held on the morning of October 17. The filial daughter xxx, and the filial son-in-law xxx weep bitterly and kneel down to invite you to come and pay your respects!
Contact number: xxxxxx (This message is sent to a group, please forgive me if it disturbs you)
Template 2
Example 2:
Dear friends and relatives:
My loving mother xxx passed away due to illness at 11:00 a.m. on June 5, 2018 (April 22 of the lunar calendar). It is planned to hold a mourning ceremony at xxx near the street of xx Town, xx County on the evening of June 9 (April 26 of the lunar calendar) and go up the mountain on June 10 (April 27 of the lunar calendar). I would like to thank all the relatives and friends for coming here to see my loving mother off on her final journey.
Daughter xx [mobile phone (WeChat): xxx], son-in-law xxx [mobile phone (WeChat) xxx] - crying! This message is sent to a group, please forgive me if it disturbs you! !