How long can you wait before getting married after an elder in your family dies? The rule of mourning for three years after an elder dies

Generally speaking, if a family member has passed away, it is best not to participate in entertainment activities or weddings or funerals. So how long should one wait before getting married after the elders in the family pass away? What are the rules for observing three years of mourning for an elderly person who has passed away?

How long can you not get married after the elders in your family die?

1. Three years <br/>In some areas where Confucianism is highly valued, it is believed that weddings cannot be held within three years after a person's death.
2. One year <br/>In most areas, one needs to observe mourning for one year after a family member dies. However, if you have already prepared for the wedding before then you can just hold the ceremony as scheduled. If a family member dies close to your wedding date, you should be cautious.
3. One hundred days <br/>In some places, mourning is not taken as seriously as in other places, and generally, weddings cannot be held within one hundred days. Everyone believes that when people die, they go to live in another place, so people in the world should stay happy. After all, the elderly also hope to see their descendants happy when they are alive.

The Three-Year Mourning Principle for the Death of an Elder

1. Do not post couplets, blessing characters, or happiness characters, etc. <br/>Do not post couplets, blessing characters, or happiness characters, etc., to keep the family in a sad and solemn atmosphere. But nowadays, in order to add some festive atmosphere, although people don’t post red couplets, characters of blessing or happiness, etc., they write them on yellow paper and post them. One is to indicate that it is the New Year, and the other is to indicate that the family is in mourning and should be solemn and dignified.
2. Reject items related to the red color . Do not hang red lanterns, wear red clothes, or light red candles, etc.
3. Ancestor stickers <br/>For ancestral stickers, the god code should be written in black on yellow paper. Do not use red paper, and do not write in gold.
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4. Set up a memorial tablet <br/>If only one of the parents has passed away, in addition to writing the ancestral sticker, a memorial tablet for the deceased elder should be set up below the ancestral sticker. If both parents have passed away, then only the ancestral sticker will suffice.
5. Do not go out to pay New Year’s greetings <br/>Within three years after the death of an elder, children are not allowed to go out to pay New Year’s greetings. It is considered unlucky to go to pay New Year’s greetings while wearing heavy mourning clothes.
6. Visiting graves <br/>Every year on the third day of the Lunar New Year, people visit graves and burn New Year paper for the elderly. Some people believe in three years for a full birthday and four years for a perfect birthday. That is to say, after burning paper for three years, you will burn paper for another year, and then you don’t need to burn paper on the third day of the lunar year anymore.