Emotional psychology revealed: The longer men live together, the less likely they are to get married

In today's romantic relationships between men and women, most of them will live together before getting married. After a while, they even think they are married. However, they don't know that the longer a man lives together, the less he wants to get married. This is the different thinking of men and women living together. What is the reason? Let’s uncover the secrets of this abnormal emotional psychology.

There is no official statistics to show how many people are living together in China. For young people who enjoy it, living together feels like heaven, but for those who suffer from it, it is hell. The only thing that is certain is that the phenomenon of cohabitation, which is prevalent around the world, is the most fragile relationship between the sexes. "Facing the reporter, Luo Huilan, a professor at the China Women's University and director of the China Marriage and Family Research Association, said bluntly.

"If it is allowed to spread like pop music, turning from a niche interest into a mass interest, more people will be lost in this relationship."

Emotional psychology revealed: The longer men live together, the less likely they are to get married

The trend of cohabitation is irreversible

The famous philosopher Bertrand Russell said in his book Marriage and Morals that if a man and a woman get married without any sexual experience, it is like a home buyer who only sees his house on the day he moves in. What if it is not suitable?

It is with this mentality that cohabitation before marriage has gone from being a disgusting thing to an option for many young people before marriage. Many people regard it as a battlefield declaring war on traditional marriage, and claim to have experienced the "convenience" it brings: older unmarried young people living together can get to know each other better and live more economically; college students live together off-campus in order to satisfy their sexual needs and find a sense of home in advance; middle-aged people after divorce are very cautious about remarriage, so they use cohabitation to test each other's intentions; in rural areas, because only wedding ceremonies are recognized and legal registration is not important, there are many people living together without marriage; and there are also people with ulterior motives who already have a spouse but still live with others just for temporary pleasure.

However, Professor Luo believes that "the prevalence of cohabitation is closely related to the loosening of the concept of marriage in the whole society. Especially after the first batch of only children gradually reached the age of marriage, their concept of marriage became more open and casual. They no longer regarded marriage as a sacred contract, did not want to be bound by the marriage relationship, and were afraid of the harm caused by a failed marriage. Although their family backgrounds were different, many people eventually took the same path: cohabitation before marriage."

"Globally, the trend of cohabitation is irreversible, but many people don't understand it clearly. This is evident from the fact that they can't tell the difference between trial marriage and cohabitation."