Can you go back to your parents' home during the winter solstice? There is a folk saying

Can I go back to my parents’ home during the winter solstice? It is said that a married daughter is like spilled water. In folk customs, a married daughter cannot easily return to her parents' home. Next, let’s take a look at what the saying is about returning to one’s parents’ home on the Winter Solstice.

Can I go back to my parents' home during the winter solstice?

According to traditional customs, you cannot go back to your parents' home on the Winter Solstice. The specific reasons are as follows:
1. There is a folk saying that you cannot go back to your parents' home on the Winter Solstice. It is said that going back on this day will be very unlucky for your father-in-law. There is also a saying in rural areas that "If you don't survive the winter on the Winter Solstice, your father-in-law will die." Although everyone thinks this is a rather feudal idea, no one dares to offend it intentionally.
2. From another perspective, the saying that one cannot return to one’s parents’ home on the Winter Solstice can, to a certain extent, mediate the relationship between husband and wife. For example, if a daughter has some minor conflicts after marrying into the man's family and returns to her parents' home, the man can use these statements as a way out and quickly invite his wife home to reunite and celebrate the festival together.

The origin of the saying that you cannot go back to your parents’ home during the winter solstice

1. In ancient times, life was very difficult for a daughter-in-law in her husband’s family. Therefore, in the early years, after helping with the autumn harvest at her husband's house, the daughter-in-law would prepare to return to her parents' home. As the saying goes: A daughter feels free at her parents' home, which is as small as an egg; on the contrary, she feels aggrieved at her husband's home, which is as big as a bucket. So when a daughter-in-law goes back to her parents' home, she usually stays there for a whole winter.
Second, however, for the husband’s family, once a woman marries into the family, she belongs to that family. If the mistress of a large family is away from home for a long time, outsiders will laugh at her. Moreover, the Winter Solstice itself is a festival of reunion. It is really unreasonable not to invite your wife home at this time. At this time, there is a saying that you cannot stay at your mother's home on the winter solstice. Therefore, on the day before the winter solstice, the husband can take his wife home with dignity.